Hi, my fiance is currently in basic and I have heard numerous bits of information about when we are allowed to get married. If there is anyone who knows the correct answer I would really appreciate it because I keep getting all sorts of different info. Some say we cant until he's done with the pipeline and AST and others say we could get married when I go down for graduation. I have looked everywhere for information and couldn't find any at all. I'd really apreciate it if someone could help me out! Many many thanks!!!

AirForceFiance,

The military cannot withold someon'e right to marriage. While it would be very difficult while in Basic, you are certainly able to right afterwards. Now, since he is going into the pipeline, you won't see each other much. But, people do it all the time. My wife and I had a child while I was away at one of my schools. And, we are doing just fine. So, congrats, good luck, and have fun with this adventure.

Thank you soo much! A girl with a boyfriend in the pipeline right now told me we couldn't get married until after all the training was over. I know we won't be able to see each other much, and I'm prepared for that. Here's another question... will I be able to move down with him after phase 1 at Hurlburt Field? He was told it would be too difficult to try to move me down before then?

Airforcefiance,
Like BFloyd said, you can get married after basic, the only question is whether or not you'll have time. It doesn't take very long to go up to the court house and get married, if that's all you wanted.
The "girl w/the boyfriend" in the pipeline probably meant that since he's already in the pipeline, you would have to wait till after. but if your fiance is still in basic you should have the chance, the military will not deny your right to marry. A friend of mine married while on base liberty at the end of basic training, took all of 45 minutes. I would try and get married before he begins the pipeline, you will earn more money.


goodluck

Thank you for all of your help! I think that is what we plan to do! I have one last question for you all. How do I find out how much money we will get? I found one website that had information on this, but I think the information was wrong... it seemed like way too much money.

Wanted to add something else:

It would actually /behoove/ you to get married before he finishes his technical training and here is why. The way orders go, is that he either gets orders as a married man, in which case his spouse and children are paid for in the move, or he gets orders as a single man in which only he is paid for. If you wait until he gets to his new base before getting married, the Air Force won't pay to move and your things to his first duty station. So coupled with more pay while in training, you'll save a lot of money with the move to his first duty station.

I offerred my girlfriend marriage on paper to split the cash as well...she wasnt too happy, but i liked the idea. Just kidding.

Dont get married. Or do, I guess. Its weird you came to a special tactics forum to ask this. You make it sound like you want to get married and he is making excuses not to. Call me a jackass.

No, it's just hard to figure all this out when I only get a like 5 minute phone call from him every other week. I just thought that maybe some of you had done this or had known anyone who went through this. It's hard to find much informtion on any of it. But thanks for everyone's help. We decided we're going to get married graduation weekend. The extra money will be very helpful since I'm in school and it will be SO nice the Air Force will pay for my move down there when I eventually go. Thanks!

TJC,

That's the purpose of this forum category...for questions like this, so quit being a jackass.

TE you're right its really none of my business and the only thing I can offer is...pretty much nothing, Im single. But hey airforcefiance tell your guy to excell in the PT standards at basic so he gets two days of freedom opposed to one. See Im lookin out! Its called "warhawk" I think if I remembed but Im sure he would know what you are talking about.

They gave us an extra day on the town after graduation. You could have your wedding day, then a honeymoon the next?

Thanks for the tip! He's almost done with basic, but I'll be sure to send that info in my letter to him tomorrow!

Here's my advice; don't get married just for the money, if you are truely in love wait it out. I see people in the military being "rushed"(i.e. leaving for basic,wanting to move off base or getting orders) into marriage that can sometimes turn sour very quickly and wind up in divorce. You say that you know that he will be gone all the time and your ok with that, atleast you may think you are at the moment. What about year or 2 down the road? you've only had a SMALL sample of the seperation that the miliarty can bring. CCT is not a job, it's a lifestyle and you have to make sure thats what you want to. He will deploy ALOT, if your both not in it together 2 things can happen. Either he will choose you or he will choose CCT, thats why you have to make sure you want this to. Like I said wait it out, until atleast AST then you can actually live together, and you will have a better understanding of what it will be like not having him there. Thru the pipeline the only diffrence is you have piece of paper that says you married and the military will give ya some extra $$, a divorce can cost some $$ and alot more heart ache.

I have a friend who's husband was a Combat Controller. She said they've been married for 2 years, and she told me: "Honestly, out of 2 years we have been married, he's probably been with me for a little less than 1 year."

It's just the role and calling of the career mam'. Good luck to you both, and I hope he blasts through everything, especially having a heart for someone and the motivation of greater things to come.